Day 20 @ Care Corner Case #1, session #1

Hmm, was still a little nervous before this even though I had a first session with another client last week. I was pretty prepared though. Anyway, I wanted to focus on her financial situation. However, it became obvious that $$ wasn't her concern anymore. She obviously wanted to focus on her son. I felt that this time round, I was more prepared to track her and connect with her. Shall watch the recording again. Ok, more details would be included in the case recording.

In the end, after I went in the second time, I asked about her she felt. She did not say much and went back to focus on her son. I was just wondering, was it because my question did not manage to draw her emotions out or was it because like what Lydia said, she's the irrelevant type according to Satir.

Sit-in with FL's session
Interesting ideas that came up...

- Women's Charter.. breaking families or reconciling families? Inherently biased against men? Why isn't there a Men's Charter then? Women are naturally predisposed to being in a disadvantaged position, therefore the need for a Women's Charter?

- Use dominant/prevalent cultural norms to challenge clients.

- What is the impact of a PPO on the male?

- After client talks about a whole string of events, it's appropriate to bring the focus back to the client and ask how he feels.

- Worker can be open to share about what has been saddening for her etc.

- Client complained about wife etc... but were there instances when she did not do ...?

- Basic Duty vs Love - is taking care of the child a basic duty of a wife or an act of love that deserves to be affirmed esp by the husband? What do Singaporeans think about this? Interesting research topic.. since families are very much in flux now.

- There' re times when worker needs to be a little more directive... "the child is not the best messenger".. "what about coming to an agreement on who spends time with child?"

- Given that there seems to be an increasing number of middle-aged males who go for foreign brides, what are some things they should give close attention to before choosing one or deciding to go ahead? Hmm.. perhaps there should be some form of educational or support program for such men. So many unmet needs.
- On the flip side, what is happening to the group of highly-educated females who do not get married or are getting married late? It's so interesting to study the family in Sg.